Wednesday 3 April 2013

Other People are in Charge of my Life!

Hello Jane,

Thanks for your insights about why you're not hiring a life coach. I was particularly interested with this comment:
... there are no guarantees of success only more knowledge as it all comes down to other people driving the situations.
Two things there. 

Firstly, on the guarantees of success item - you are correct - there are none. However, I go a long way to removing this risk for my new clients in these ways:
  1. You can get an initial consultation for only £10, and if you hire me, that's refunded. This is your chance to sound me out ans see how life coaching might work for you before you invest. Also I will be assessing my chances of helping the client. If I don't think those chances are good - because of their situation, their expectations or their personal characteristics, I will not take on the client. So if we did move forward, the chances of success are good from both perspectives.
  2.  I offer a money-back guarantee on all sessions (and in fact, on everything else I sell). If you feel a session was not helpful, just email me for a refund.
  3. You can see more than 300 testimonials at my life coaching website. They are all from people like you, and are completely genuine, of course.
  4. You can read my articles on my life coaching website. They tell you a lot about me, my approach and my skills.
Your second, and perhaps your main comment, is also very interesting. You say it all comes down to other people driving the situations. Certainly other people have hire/fire decisions to make, but that does not mean that you do not have any influence on things.

Often when things don't go our way, we become despondent. And when DECADES roll by like that, our view of the world becomes stiffened and pessimistic. "What's the point? Nothing works anyway". Often life coaching is about finding the wisdom to recognise the flaw in this thinking and then finding the inner resources to fight.

The flaw is that pessimism is self-fulfilling. If you think you'll fail, you probably will, because you won't invest your best efforts in making it succeed. Having recognised that, the second part is to claw your way through your pessimism into doing what's needed to give you the best chance of getting what you want.

That's what life coaching IS. I don't expect you to change your personality or wear a super-hero cape. I expect you to continue to be who you really are - which is probably tired, sad, defeated, reluctant to work hard for something you don't really think you can have, and perhaps a little afraid. And I'll work with THAT PERSON to keep you on track and well-motivated for long enough to get you the traction you need to take over on your own. 

I hope that's helpful Jane. Do let me know if you have any questions.

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